Margi talks about experiencing growth after leaving the Mormon church.
The promise of religious exit is rarely delivered as advertised. For Margi, whose departure from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is documented on the Mormon Stories Podcast, growth after leaving the Mormon church looked nothing like the tidy redemption arcs celebrated in faith transition forums. Instead, she describes a grinding process of reckoning, isolation, and deliberate self-construction without the scaffolding of ward boundaries or priesthood authority. Her testimony cuts against both the church's warnings of apostate misery and the ex-Mormon community's occasional tendency to romanticize freedom as effortless liberation.
Background: The Official Narrative vs. Documented Experience
The LDS Church maintains a consistent theological position on those who leave. Apostasy represents not merely a change of belief but a turning away from covenants, resulting in spiritual jeopardy and, according to some teachings, familial separation in the hereafter. Historical records show this position hardening through the twentieth century, with excommunication increasingly framed as protective quarantine rather than mere administrative separation.
Yet the documented experiences of former members reveal a more complex trajectory. The church's own sociology, captured in internal studies leaked over decades, acknowledges that most departures stem from historical or doctrinal concerns rather than sin or laziness. Margi's account fits this pattern. She did not drift toward hedonism. She walked toward a reconstruction of self that required dismantling decades of programmed obedience.
Key Claims: The Unpretty Work of Post-Mormon Growth
On Mormon Stories, Margi resists the pressure to perform gratitude or polish her narrative for easy consumption. She describes the immediate aftermath of exit as raw, unpretty work. The suffering is real. The community vanishes. The psychological architecture built to sustain Mormon cosmology does not collapse cleanly. It requires demolition.